"Because I'm the Man..."

"Because I'm the Man..."

Friends, I am still astounded (even though I should know better) when I hear some men use the "argument", "Because I'm the man" to get their way and to exert control over their partners. That this still continues in this day and age is really amazing... and pathetic. Yet it does still and it takes all my professional training to keep from... Well, I won't say. Fortunately, there are many men who have long ago rejected that worn-out oppressive model. 

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The Soul of Compassion: Understanding

The Soul of Compassion: Understanding

The key to a GREAT relationship is REALLY understanding, which is the soul of compassion. To know someone so fully that you can see past what you disagree with about them to what really makes them tick. To fully understand them as they are instead of as they "should" be opens up the door to truly loving someone.

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Daily Romance & Valentine's ALL Year

Daily Romance & Valentine's ALL Year

Whew! You got here before Valentine's Day... OR... Oops! You're getting this too late after Valentine's Day? Either way, great! Because, this post isn't for Valentine's Day, it's for taking care of your relationship with great care throughout the whole year, and not just on one day. For example, for our tenth anniversary, I collected and printed or wrote out 365 love quotes and poems and put them in the jars pictured above. This way she could read have random love note/Valentine every day that year. Further, they are a constant reminder year after year of the time and care I took that Valentine's Day to let her know for many days and many years how much she matters to me.

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Husband Training 101

Husband Training 101

I'm giving a presentation called "Husband Training 101.” Some people have recoiled against the choice of word "training" as they think it sounds demeaning somehow--like training a dog (what's demeaning about training a dog? Okay, I know, I get it--the problem is that I'm supposedly comparing husbands to dogs. Am I? No, I are one! Husband, not dog, that is...). My point is that good training in ANY aspect of life tends towards mucho better results (sports, work, school, and yes, marriage, family, parenting AND even husbands).

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