Two Teens Answer "What Are Healthy or Unhealthy Relationships?"

Today I did a survey of local teen girls (at lunch today with my daughty and her bestie, both 15-years-old—a super small survey!) asking them, "How do you know when a relationship is healthy or unhealthy?" See their answers below and please answer the following questions:

Q: 1. What do you tell your kids about distinguishing between healthy and unhealthy, safe/unsafe, good/bad relationships?

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Q: 2. What do you wish you knew as a teen that you know now?

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Q: 3: Do you agree with the girls' answers? What would you add or change?

Healthy
Unhealthy
[divider] [/divider] "If you can work together." [divider] [/divider] "Beating up verbally, emotionally or physically."
[divider] [/divider] "Not fighting a lot." [divider] [/divider] "Fear telling others about being abused. Afraid to reach out for help."
[divider] [/divider] "Go out on dates weekly like you and mom. Reminds each other that you are still in love, and that you make time for each other." [divider] [/divider] "Fearful."
[divider] [/divider] "Can tell each other anything." [divider] [/divider] "Gossip. Bad-mouthing partner to others behind her/his back."
[divider] [/divider] "Need to have a good relationship with yourself. You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else." [divider] [/divider] "If you don't love yourself you might take out your own flaws on your partner."
[divider] [/divider] "Accept who you are. You are made to be you and not someone else."
[divider] [/divider] "Use 'I messages.' We learned about those in Teen Living. They are a more respectful way to talk about your problems with each other." [divider] [/divider] "When you use 'You messages' your partner feels attacked and they get defensive.
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Q: 1. What do you tell your kids about distinguishing between healthy and unhealthy, safe/unsafe, good/bad relationships?

—OR—

Q: 2. What do you wish you knew as a teen that you know now?

—OR—

Q: 3: Do you agree with the girls' answers? What would you add or change?