Top 5 Holiday Stress-Busters & The Holiday Stress-Busting Guide

"It's the most wonderful stressful time of the year!" 

Holidays and family togetherness can be wonderful and/or miserable. Either way, there's a LOT to do over the holidays and it can get pretty stressful, and tense, quite quickly.
In response, a few years ago I was asked by a few TV stations to come talk about how to reduce stress over the holidays. The Top 5 Holiday Stress-Busters (free download) is what I shared. That got me thinking about our own holiday stresses in our family and extended families as well as all the ways I've helped my clients deal with the stress of family togetherness over the holidays. So five stress-busters quickly turned into 100's of stress-busters for the holidays (see guide below).
While there are many things that contribute to holiday stress, in 2004, The American Psychological Association conducted a holiday stress survey and identified the top six stressors as follows:
  1. Money
  2. Gift-giving
  3. Lack of time
  4. Families
  5. Diet
  6. Children’s issues

This guide addresses each of these stressors in depth, as well as many others, with a focus on providing many more solutions than there are problems. That’s the way it should be.

This guide covers hundreds of ways to bust, cool, chill, deal and cope with all the various stresses of the holidays.

Here's what you'll get:

  • Hundreds and hundreds of practical, useful and effective stress-busting tips, strategies, mindsets, and techniques for dealing with every aspect of holiday stress.
  • Worksheets to help you put the concepts into action.
  • The 30-Day Stress Tracker and the 31-60-Day "Overlearning!" Stress-Tracker

Download your eBook copy now and start busting your holiday stress!

Just take a peek at the Table of Contents:

INTRODUCTION

  • THE HOLIDAYS ARE NOT THE SAME FOR EVERYONE
  • STRESS 101
  • SIGNS & SYMPTOMS OF STRESS
  • ASSESS YOUR STRESS

WELL-BEING: PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL, & MENTAL STRESS-BUSTERS

  • PHYSICAL HEALTH STRESS-BUSTERS
  • SIMPLE PHYSICAL & MENTAL WORKOUTS WORK
  • RELAXATION & MINDFULNESS
  • STRESS-BUSTING ATTITUDES & MINDSETS
  • MOOD STRESS-BUSTERS
  • MENTAL ILLNESS STRESS BUSTERS
  • GET HELP WHEN YOU NEED IT

RELATIONSHIP & FAMILY STRESS-BUSTERS

  • RELATIONSHIP & FAMILY CONFLICT STRESS-BUSTERS
  • BUSTING STRESS WITH THE CHILDREN
  • CONNECTING WITH YOUR KIDS OVER THE HOLIDAYS
  • SEPARATION & DIVORCE STRESS-BUSTERS
  • STEP-FAMILY STRESS-BUSTERS
  • BEREAVEMENT & GRIEVING OVER THE HOLIDAYS
  • MOURNING THE LOSS OF THE PAST YEAR
  • LONELINESS & ISOLATION STRESS-BUSTERS
  • USING SOCIAL SUPPORTS AS STRESS-BUSTERS

TIME & MONEY STRESS-BUSTERS

  • FINANCIAL STRESS-BUSTERS
  • TIME PRESSURE STRESS-BUSTERS
  • GIFT-GIVING STRESS-BUSTERS
  • SHOPPING STRESS-BUSTERS
  • HOLIDAY MEAL STRESS-BUSTERS

ADDITIONAL STRESS-BUSTERS

  • COUNTER COMMERCIALISM
  • EXAMINE YOUR TRADITIONS
  • TRAVELING STRESS-BUSTERS
  • SOME ADDITIONAL STRESS BUSTERS
  • DO ONE THING DIFFERENT
  • HOLIDAY STRESS-BUSTING RESOURCE GUIDE
  • SHARE YOUR STRESS BUSTING TIPS!

 

Download your eBook copy now and start busting your holiday stress!

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It's the most wonderful time of the year! And it can be the most stressful.

In 2004, The American Psychological Association conducted a holiday stress survey and identified the top six stressors as follows:

1. Money
2. Gift-giving
3. Lack of time
4. Families
5. Diet
6. Children’s issues

This guide addresses each of these stressors in depth, as well as many others, with a focus on providing many more solutions than there are problems. That’s the way it should be.

This guide covers hundreds of ways to bust, cool, chill, deal and cope with all the various stresses of the holidays.

Here's what you'll get:

  • Hundreds and hundreds of practical, useful and effective stress-busting tips, strategies, mindsets, and techniques for dealing with every aspect of holiday stress.
  • Worksheets to help you put the concepts into action.
  • The 30-Day Stress Tracker and the 31-60-Day "Overlearning!" Stress-Tracker

Pick yours up today at bardos.net/HolidayStressBusters

Just take a peek at the Table of Contents:

INTRODUCTION

  • THE HOLIDAYS ARE NOT THE SAME FOR EVERYONE
  • STRESS 101
  • SIGNS & SYMPTOMS OF STRESS
  • ASSESS YOUR STRESS

WELL-BEING: PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL, & MENTAL STRESS-BUSTERS

  • PHYSICAL HEALTH STRESS-BUSTERS
  • SIMPLE PHYSICAL & MENTAL WORKOUTS WORK
  • RELAXATION & MINDFULNESS
  • STRESS-BUSTING ATTITUDES & MINDSETS
  • MOOD STRESS-BUSTERS
  • MENTAL ILLNESS STRESS BUSTERS
  • GET HELP WHEN YOU NEED IT

RELATIONSHIP & FAMILY STRESS-BUSTERS

  • RELATIONSHIP & FAMILY CONFLICT STRESS-BUSTERS
  • BUSTING STRESS WITH THE CHILDREN
  • CONNECTING WITH YOUR KIDS OVER THE HOLIDAYS
  • SEPARATION & DIVORCE STRESS-BUSTERS
  • STEP-FAMILY STRESS-BUSTERS
  • BEREAVEMENT & GRIEVING OVER THE HOLIDAYS
  • MOURNING THE LOSS OF THE PAST YEAR
  • LONELINESS & ISOLATION STRESS-BUSTERS
  • USING SOCIAL SUPPORTS AS STRESS-BUSTERS

TIME & MONEY STRESS-BUSTERS

  • FINANCIAL STRESS-BUSTERS
  • TIME PRESSURE STRESS-BUSTERS
  • GIFT-GIVING STRESS-BUSTERS
  • SHOPPING STRESS-BUSTERS
  • HOLIDAY MEAL STRESS-BUSTERS

ADDITIONAL STRESS-BUSTERS

  • COUNTER COMMERCIALISM
  • EXAMINE YOUR TRADITIONS
  • TRAVELING STRESS-BUSTERS
  • SOME ADDITIONAL STRESS BUSTERS
  • DO ONE THING DIFFERENT
  • HOLIDAY STRESS-BUSTING RESOURCE GUIDE
  • SHARE YOUR STRESS BUSTING TIPS!

Pick yours up today at bardos.net/HolidayStressBusters


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Husband Training 101

I'm giving a presentation called "Husband Training 101" in my old Michigan stompin' grounds next week for my step-mom's Women's Conference. Some people have recoiled against the choice of word "training" as they think it sounds demeaning somehow--like training a dog (what's demeaning about training a dog? Okay, I know, I get it--the problem is that I'm supposedly comparing husbands to dogs. Am I? No, I are one! Husband, not dog, that is...). My point is that good training in ANY aspect of life tends towards mucho better results (sports, work, school, and yes, marriage, family, parenting AND even husbands).

But, what do you think? Add a comment below.

My reasoning is simply based on the very definition of training (bolds and CAPS added by me...):

train•ing |ˈtrāni ng | noun

the ACTION of TEACHING a person or animal a particular SKILL or type of BEHAVIOR: in-service training for staff. • the ACTION of undertaking a COURSE of EXERCISE and diet (i.e., DISCIPLINE) in PREPARATION for a sporting EVENT (i.e., marriage or family life): you'll have to go into strict training.

Phrases: IN (or out of) TRAINING undergoing (or no longer undergoing) physical (or RELATIONSHIP) training for a sporting event. • physically (or RELATIONALLY) FIT (or unfit) as a RESULT of the AMOUNT of training one has UNDERTAKEN.


Yeah, heaven forbid we get trained in our roles as husbands to be well-prepared and skilled. Heaven forbid wives learn effective and respectful training methods to teach particular skills or preferred types of behaviors. Instead, let's continue to argue, fight, and bicker and/or continue to stonewall, shut down and ignore each other all of which is much less demeaning than "training."

Rant out.

Come see me! If you're in Kalamazoo, MI on March 8th or 9th come check out my FREE (yea!) presentations: "Stress and Anxiety: Mastering Strong Emotions"; "Husband Training 101"; and "Building Strong Families with 'ACCCTS'". Go to My Speaking Cal for more details. Do it!