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For years I've been teaching a popular workshop, "Building Strong Famlies with A-Triple-C-T-S." One of the things I talk about is appreciation and noticing "invisible work."
For years each Mother's Day I gave my baby CD's called Momma Songs to celebrate her giving me my four treasures. Some are silly, some are profound. Some funky, others touching. There are 40 songs here (and some Yo Mama jokes at the end). Scroll through or just listen to the whole playlist. Enjoy!
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Every year Mother's Day comes around and I can already hear the groans from the women: "I hate Mother's Day, I'm not a good mother, Everyone else is better than me, I suck, etc." But really? How awesome is it that each family member gets to celebrate what they like best about you? ...Read More
You may have a great relationship with your child(ren)'s mother or you may not. But you should always respect her. Why? Well, there may be many reasons but here's one: She gave you your child (whom I'm assuming that you, like me, consider your greatest treasure). Now let's look at the basic math here:
Your male contribution to the birth of your child:
- Pre-conception: 5-15 minutes of fun (orgasm achieved—woo hoo!).
Her female contribution to the birth of your child:
- Pre-conception: 5-15 minutes of possible fun (may or may not have orgasmed—huh?)
- Conception to birth: 15,960 minutes (average length is 266 days) of:
- body changes/upheaval,
- sleepless nights,
- back aches,
- hormonal changes,
- mood swings,
- immediate attachment to the child from the moment she knows she's pregnant, which comes with constant vigilance and worry about the child's well-being,
- weight gain,
- taking all kinds of vitamins and supplements,
- OB/GYN examinations,
- carrying an actual moving, living being inside her womb,
- and finally hours and hours of labor (yikes!).
- AND a full willingness to go through all of that for YOU and YOUR child. Seriously, what man in his right mind would not give some serious and sincere due props for that?!
All that is for just ONE child. If you have more than one child then multiply the above accordingly. For me, my wife has given me four children which means her birth to conception grand total is 63,840 minutes to my contribution of 20-60 minutes. There's nothing for me or any father to feel bad about or guilty that we didn't contribute more--that's just all we can do. But, there is clearly a LOT for us to be grateful for and I sure hope the mother of your children knows how much you appreciate her sacrifice for your treasures.
PS: It's been 11 years since the birth of our last child and I'm still in awe of the above numbers.
My children’s mother is magnificent. My own mother was phenomenal. Neither is nor was perfect nor did they have to be. With pride and gratitude I can echo Abraham Lincoln’s sentiment, “Everything I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.” My mother and step-father taught me to respect women, girls, mothers and wives. My children are learning the same from my wife and me. My boys will honor the women in their lives and my girls will expect to be honored by the men in their lives.
Mothers Day is obviously a great day to show appreciation for our mothers. However, one day is not sufficient. Appreciation, to be effective, must be expressed frequently, regularly and consistently. Appreciation is a relationship non-optional. While appreciation does not need to be over-the-top I think we can easily go beyond one card once a year. Here, then, are seven ways for honoring mothers throughout the year: http://marriageenvy.com/
From one of my fav movies. Any dads relate?
"I stand outside this woman's work. Now starts the craft of the father." —Kate Bush, This Woman's Work, from the movie She's Having a Baby
Please honor the mother of your children. Work your craft to be a father of honor.
BONUS: "This Woman's Work" cover by Maxwell