208SELF-MASTERY Tip 1Self-mastery begins with developing a great relationship with yourself. So, get to know yourself. Learn to love being in your own head. Learn to enjoy your own company.

As a few of the greats have said: • "All of man's trouble stem from his inability to sit quietly in a room alone." —Blaise Pascal • “You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with.” —Wayne W. Dyer • “If we are incapable of finding peace in ourselves, it is pointless to search elsewhere.” —François de La Rochefoucauld

SELF-MASTERY Tip 2 "Work-Life balance?" No! I don't want such a significant part of my life (work) to be be separate from my life! Whether enjoyable or not, work is a part of life; and a noble part of it. Call it "Work-Home Balance" or "Life Balance" fine. Too many people suffer because of a disconnect among the various aspects of their lives. Thus, integration, not dis-integration, is key.

SELF-MASTERY Tip 3 Be there. When home be home. When at work be at work. When engaging with the customer be fully with the customer. When playing with your child play fully with your child. When listening to your partner listen fully to your partner. Controlling the mind's attention in the present moment is the key to self-mastery and enjoyment of life as it is.

SELF-MASTERY Tip 4 Contentment. "His own heart laughed: and that was quite enough for him." —Charles Dickens referring to Ebenezer Scrooge in A Christmas Carol. Learn to become so simply content that your own heart laughing is sufficient.

SELF-MASTERY Tip 5 Don't try to change everything. Do just one thing different today, this week, or this month. Seek for what Gregory Bateson called "the difference that makes the difference".

How have you developed self-mastery, or how are you developing it currently? Share your ideas below. Thanks.