You Be Good to You

20111208-104533.jpgInstead of "goodbye" I often say to my clients as they leave, "You be good to you." We tend to be so hard on ourselves, and while we can remember to be good to others we forget to be compassionate to our own selves. It's so simple, but we create a needless double standard where it's right to be understanding of others but okay to be harsh on ourselves. Beating oneself up is not noble. No one was ever motivated into long-term healthy change through verbal abuse. It doesn't work with changing self either. Compassion isn't just about being nice. It's simply the single most powerful, intelligent and logical approach to change there is. So knock off the stupid double standard and just be good to you whether you feel like it or not. Okay? Okay.

"Be Good to Yourself" by Journey is a great pick me up song related to this concept.