Our 20th Anniversary Year-Long Celebration

You know how business' celebrate their 10th, 20th, etc anniversary of being in business all year long? Well, marriage and family is more important than any business so Kara and I decided today that we're going to make our 20th Anniversary a Year-Long Celebration instead of just on our anniversary date itself and stretch it out throughout 2012 with various big and small celebrations, activities and parties. Woo hoo!

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Screen shot 2012-12-27 at 9.12.35 AM

Enter the 20/20/20 GIVEAWAY! Full details here!


What are your favorite anniversary ideas, stories and memories? Please share them with us in the comments below!

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Yes, it made me cry. Best gift I've ever received! Wow! I'm tearing up, folks, sap that I am. What a touching (and funny) review and tribute of our life together. Thanks, baby! BEST anniversary gift I've EVER received.

January 30th: Decision to make this a full year-long anniversary celebration.



February 12th

February 14th

  • Valentine's Waffles  for Kara and the kids.
  • Unveiling of this year's anniversary logo above. This always goes on the back window of her vehicle. This is part of my approach of  Valentine's All Year and ongoing courtship.  (see past years logos here).
  • Play Day.Our friendship began long before our love affair did. We were friends in college, poor students, who found lots of cheap, creative and fun ways to have fun bumming around campus: Chalk dancing, dirt-clod fights, singing 70's TV show theme songs, looking at the "pickled people" in the science building and so on. So today we're just playing. Here's today's play agenda:
    • —Go to our children's schools together and buy candy grams for them.
    • —Go to our alma mater BYU
    • ——Pal around like the good old days and reminisce.
    • ——Enjoy the art at BYU's Museum of Fine Art
    • ——Get ice cream at the BYU Dairy
    • —Slick track go-cart racing
    • —Shopping
    • —Listening to our 20th Anniversary Playlist (listen here) throughout the day as we drive around.
    • Drove all day with this all over our vehicle "Just Married... 20 years ago today!" Thanks kids!
    • KSL Channel 5 live interviewof our 20th Anniversary Year Long Celebration. Woo hoo!
    • Dinner at Franck's. French cuisine. Our third anniversary there. Kara's a real foodie, a culinary genius and appreciates fine food like no one I know. She knows what all the fancy words on a menu means that no one else understands. It's fun to listen to her describe how certain foods are made and the history of certain methods or techniques.

February 18th

  • 20th Anniversary Party. A small party with local family and friends.



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Screen shot 2012-03-30 at 9.58.51 PM

March 30, 2012: Kara and I went to the "Keeping the Love Alive" Date Night Seminar. By Michelle  Weiner-Davis, best-selling author of Divorce-Busting, hosted by StrongerMarriage.org Michelle is one of the key leaders in my field and has greatly influenced the Solution-Focused work I do with my clients. It was great to learn from her again. Kara and I both enjoyed her presentation. And after I introduced Kara to my new fav find: Rusted Sun Pizzeria (num!) with the most amazing calzones and spumoni for dessert.



Moab, UT hiking trip


Park City overnight date


WaveRunner Date


Marriage Getaway, Aspen Grove, UT. I highly recommend these Marriage and Weekend Getaways. They are affordable, insightful and fun.


Alaskan Cruise


Las Vegas overnighter


Announcing The 20/20/20 GIVEAWAY!!!

What are your favorite anniversary ideas, stories and memories? Please share them with us in the comments below!

20 Years is...

2 Decades

240 Months

1,044 Weeks

7,305 Days

175,316 Hours

10,518,975 Minutes

631,138,519 Seconds

      And counting...

 "Lucky" My Eye

And to think some fool said to me that my wife and I were "lucky" to have such a great marriage. Yeah, right. That's what it is: "luck." Luck my eye. Our great marriage is time put in, work done, study done, lessons learned, bad habits undone and good habits hard-won. Don't you dare cheapen my kick-ass marriage by calling what we have CREATED "lucky." Might as well call Warren Buffet's wealth luck or Michael Jordan's skill luck.  But, if you call working your butts off to a commitment and never giving up "luck" then I wish you all the best luck in the world!

Any of my clients who have done The GREAT Relationship Work can also well attest that their accomplishments had nothing to do with luck, but with choice, commitment, and LOTS of hard work. Their turn-arounds and transformations didn't "just happen" and didn't come cheap. Their relationships are GREAT because they were EARNED the hard way, the old way, the only way—doing the right work the right way and refusing to cut corners. Excellence only.

Past Anniversaries